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My Story

I began life as a screaming bundle of "joy" in a hospital (Kendang Kerbau, more affectionately known as KK) in Singapore. Born in a time where Singapore was trying to control it's population from booming (the infamous "Two is Enough" phase), I had only an elder brother.

My childhood was spent in a huge house, on the east-coast of Singapore. A white structure that was beautifully built to resemble a victorian mansion, the house was the stuff of dreams. It overlooked the beach, tall coconut trees shaded the front of the house from the, sometimes, harsh afternoon sun. I remember vividly the beautiful sunsets and cool breezes I so enjoyed when I sat on the flight of steps that leads to the front doors.

I had little contact with other children my age. I had private tutors who come in daily, I play only with my brother and cousins in the backyard, and I was never allowed to join the other children in play. I can't really complain about any of that ... I had a priviledged childhood. However, the seclusion made me a very timid person, sometimes interpreted as snobbish. My childhood ended at the age of five.

Then came a terribly confusing time. My grandfather died and my grandmother shortly after. This was a time of chaos for the family. I can't describe it in detail because the details were lost to me. All I could remember was that the "good life" ended. Within months, my parents together with my brother and me, moved to a HDB (Housing Development Board) flat. A little three-room apartment. For the first time in my life I attended a public school. I hated it ...

For the next few years, I was often left at home alone (my brother was sent to live with my aunt in Malaysia) and I became what was known as a "latch-key" kid. This was perhaps the time in my life when I became a bitter and angry kid.

My years of study led me from primary school, to secondary school to poly and then the dreaded NS (National Service). By now, I have become a simple and I guess "normal" person. The education system in Singapore is a pretty straight forward set of fixed paths, I simply followed the crowd and studied whatever what was offered me.

During my NS, I went through the basic three months of BMT (Basic Military Training) and then I was posted to the School of Signals (SOS) to learn about radio communications. After that I went on to the School of Transport (SOT) where I learned how to drive anything from a landrover to a three-ton truck. I spent the rest of my service in 2nd Guards, an infantary battalion.

I had my ORD (Operationally Ready Date - some idiot higher up in the chain of command decided that Run Out Date- ROD sounded too cheerful) parade in June of 1995. This bit brings me to the present time which sees me in the University of Tasmania (in australia) doing a bachelor degree. My major is in Computing and I specialise in Computer Graphics.

I'll be graduating soon ... I will update this when the time comes :)

Being Gay

Yup, I'm gay. There have been some people in IRC who have asked me ... "When did you become gay?". Well, I don't think I "became" gay as such (some people may have, I don't think I'll discuss the issue of evolution or creation), I think I was born gay. Even at a tender age, I knew that men appealed to me more than women. The male body has always been more attractive to me than the female body.

I'm "still in the closet", probably because up to now, nobody had asked if I'm gay. Nobody that really mattered anyway. I don't know what my reaction would be if anyone did ask, I prefer not to think about it. I'm obviously very straight-acting.

My Men

I've had one boyfriend so far. We were together for 2 years when I was serving my National service. He's a Hongkee (he hates me calling him that), studying in Singapore. I loved him ... deeply, more than I let him know I think. He left me two years ago when he returned to HongKong. I decided when he left that I would not contact him either through the phone or through mail, I do not believe in prolonging the inevitable. I moved a year after he left and never contacted him since. I hope he is well.

At this time I am in search of a new love ... being single for two years have made me yearn for companionship again. This is not to say I'm desperate :). I'm just open to applications ...

Let's not kid anyone ... I look for physical attraction before I even bother to find out about the personality of a person. I won't believe someone who says "I look for what's inside only ... the appearance doesn't matter" ... I think it's crap. All that said, I think the personality is important too ;). The first thing I notice in a man is a cute face ... this gets my attention 90% of the time ... (what can I say? I'm a sucker for a cutie). The next would be the body. I don't look for "greek god" or "muscle-bound" ... I am easily satisfied with anything that's not considered fat nor thin.

Now to the personality. The sure-fire way to get into my good books would be a good sense of humour (I know I know .. everyone looks for that). Besides that would be the type of guys that are romantics ... I'm hopelessly romantic ... a few candles and a good piece of poetry and I'm satisfied (easy huh?).

Pet Peeves

I HATE ... I mean HATE people who asks me if I've had sex with anyone and how good it was. I turns me off completely and usually makes me hostile. I mean, who I've had sex with and how good he was is none of anybody's business but mine, so if you've a tendency to ask that sort of questions, please refrain.

Another thing I hate are the idiots that "/msg" me and then says nothing. I HATE it!! Please, don't do that, it's so damned irritating! I won't mind if you ask about my stats and decide if I'm not for you, just say so!

People that turn me off are smokers (those who have bad-breath *yucks* I don't mind those who have good hygiene though), people who thinks sex is everything (go find an inflatable ken doll), people with nicks like "Horny" or it's derivatives, people who send fake pics (arrrggghhh!).

I'm a pretty nice guy most of the time (although I can sometimes be a little crazy or bitchy). Be nice :).

My Interests

I was a competition swimmer from age 12 to 20. I trained daily at Queestown pool with my uncle (who is a lifeguard) and compete mostly in inter-school events (mostly in the sprint events). I still swim regularly at Yishun pool. I usually avoid cruising in the pool and showers (I think it's sleazy) I usually towel dry and head home for showers.

I love to read, that is the one thing that will make me skip meals and lose sleep (now there's IRC ofcoz). I read anything from fantasy to poetry to even the Christian Bible :P. I dabble a little in writing but have nothing which I think is good enough for public display. Some "lucky" or "unlucky" people have recieved short poems I wrote in their e-mail :). This is a poem I give my ex-boyfriend when we parted :

Told you I was a hopeless romantic ;). If you want to read more of these stuff, you can click here

Last Word

If you have read so far, you must either be a very bored net surfer or a very interested viewer :). I'm usually found on IRC (#gam on EFNET) using the nick ZhengWah, which is my real name (surname Yong). To close friends I'm known as Steve, I only started using ZhengWah because many have "/msg" me assuming I'm a gwm in Australia, because I log on using an account in Tasmania.

I do not believe in finding a boyfriend on IRC, that is not a possibility for me. Say hello and be nice, I am usually a pretty good conversationalist.

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